It’s already awesome…
May 2nd, 2008 by ShaunO
I met a ’stranger’ at a pub the other day. I was out walking and he, copious amounts of ‘claret’ running down the left hand side of his face, was evidently on bicycle transport. He had had quite a bingle and re-configured his left cheek quite substantially… I was quite concerned but he wasn’t it seemed…
A native ‘Newcastlian’ he now works in Brazil on heavy oil rig towing ships - 8 weeks on, 8 weeks off. He arrived in Heathrow the day before. We chatted for maybe an hour and a half. He was most definitely having ‘too good a time’ and had been hammering the whisky and pints most of the day apparently - it’s dry on the ship for the whole 8 week shift.
He’s still in love with his ex-wife even though that ended 14 years ago. He has two really interesting children - a 20 something boy who’s travelled and is a fully qualified sports instructor and a late teens daughter who I can’t remember what she’s up to exactly but she’s well on her path and it sounded pretty cool. He returns to the UK often and spends a lot of time with his kids.
In his early 20’s he lived on a beach in Crete for 12 months with a young Australian lady he had met - their life paths crossed, they spent a significant part of their youths together - and its the most cherished memory of his life.
He loves walking the Yorkshire Dales and the Lake District and had headed straight for Norfolk for some peace and quiet and to catch up with various friends, in various places up this way, like Great Yarmouth, before heading north. He can wax lyrical about the beauty he sees in the landscapes, his love of life, and the people who are important to him.
A good meandering chat, touching on all sorts, and the surprise came when he asked me ‘whats it all about?… what does it all mean?’…
Now, for anyone who knows me much - amusement might be felt at this point - verging on breaking out into hysterical laughter. Generally these are not the type of questions one asks me unless you really have a few hours to spare - my own joke about this is - why use a few words when a couple of thousand might easily do :-)
What caught me off guard about this situation however was that I actually had something to say in answer…
He is an awesome human being, his life is awesome, even if he didn’t quite ‘get that’ yet. He can see beauty in nature and simplicity and every time he shares that with his friends he is giving a gift. He has two ’switched on kids’ and they spend ‘quality time together’ regularly - they are sharing with their father a relationship morphing into the mutual respect of adulthood rather than that of parent-child - they share this gift together. He travels the world and takes that in his stride. He’s a productive, qualified professional who is sought after in his field. He can afford to take time out to think through the meaning of life - and does…
He is awesome, “isn’t your life awesome?” - that was the nub of my answer…
What’s it all about?
What does it all mean?
It’s already awesome - you just have to catch the sun at the right angle, or pause for a moment at a flower you pass, or maybe find your right perspective…
Photo: ‘A Valentine’s Rose’, © dws21uk










